/’valyo͞o/
noun
- the regard that something is held to deserve; the
importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
- a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's
judgment of what is important in life.
verb
- consider (someone or something) to be important or beneficial;
have a high opinion of.
Don't forget to love
yourself. --Soren Kierkegaard
Plant your own garden and
decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. --Veronica A. Shoffstall
You, yourself, as much as
anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. --Buddha
Value, it is a big word and can be used to describe a plethora of
things, actions, feelings, or abstract objects.
Values in a social sense is the set of values, institutions, laws, and
symbols common to a particular social group.
My intent with this post is to talk about value in the self-worth sense—valuing
ourselves and loving ourselves for all that we are or are not.
As a woman, it can be easy to devalue ourselves and internalize the
illusion that we are insignificant. I
can only speak for myself, a woman, but we tend to compare ourselves to others—we
measure our worth by our looks, place in life, marital (or relationship)
status, our careers, and our monetary or social standing. We use a false framework to measure our worth. These things are so far from the true measure
of our worth--our very existence is worthy of value. Every single one of us impacts someone, somehow,
in some way.
Spending years devaluing my worth took me down a very dark path. I chose relationships that I knew were not
good for me, I chose jobs that did not challenge me, I spent money that I did
not have to spend. When I took the time
to align myself with my true, authentic self I began to realize my worth. If no human on this earth recognizes my worth,
it’s fine because I do not need validation from anyone. As long as I am comfortable with the person
in the mirror I am winning.
This journey has been a series of ‘ah-ha’ moments, some pleasant some
not so pleasant-- times of learning and growth.
I let go of self-judgement and judgments about others. I rebuilt my self-confidence and am learning
to teach others how to treat me. I know
what I need in my relationships. It has
been a process of falling in love with myself and rekindling a relationship
with myself. I let go of searching
outside myself for validation and self-worth, that is an inside job.
If, for some reason, you believe that you are insignificant, maybe it is
time to find out where these thoughts.
What created these self-defeating thoughts. Why are you belittling yourself? These thoughts can be limiting you in many
ways. Shifting our perceptions and
finding the source of these thoughts can affect you and how you impact the world. Gaining an awareness of how much you really
do matter to this world will help you to find a new connection to the world and
to the universe. YOU are important YOU are valuable.
I talk about being a life coach but I realize that some might not know
what a life coach is or does. A life coach
helps you to organize your thoughts into sustainable actions. A life coach helps you to live on purpose and
take actions. A life coach helps you to
increase your awareness and live from the inside out. Partnering with a life coach helps you to
learn to control your emotions and to manage progress. A life coach is NOT a therapist and will not explore
your past or try to make sense of the past.
Life coaching is about helping you to start right where you are and to
move forward.
If you are interested in a free session to see what life coaching can do
for you, fill out the form (on the right) to get on my calendar.
Change
your thinking to knowing that your life matters, and that you are important.
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