Really!?

I am reading the book Act Like a Lady / Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey…I think that every man, woman and child should read this book. Well, let me rephrase that a bit…I think that every single woman should read this book. Why? Because it gives some inside information to women, from a man’s perspective. You-see I have not been single in many, many (many?) years so this is all new to me. When I WAS single there were no rules…or at least I don’t think that there were? Apparently there are some unwritten rules these days, rules that are a bit hard to follow if you ask me! You are not supposed to talk about the ‘ex’ and you are supposed to let them know your expectations right up front.

HELLO?

I want to know about the ex because that tells me something about YOU AND I am all about expectations BUT should that not come at a later date? When you lay all of that out there initially (no matter how subtle it might be) does it not make them thing that you’re thinking future? I am all for planning a future but should I not know your character first? Yes, I am up for letting them know that I like to have doors opened for me and you better respect me but is that not something you should do anyway? Should a man not respect a woman (and visa versa)?

I am really big on integrity so sometimes I might say things that I should not say for the sake of putting it out there and just for the sake of being honest. I am ME and that’s all I know how to be so sometimes I can be politically incorrect…SORRY!? I can wake up in the morning and look at myself in the mirror and like the person I am. SO, if I like the person I am with then I want them to know that I am open and honest…at ALL times! If I break the ‘rules’ and if you’re offended you should move on? I don’t know maybe this will keep me out of the ‘keeper’ pool but I guess loneliness is better than living with a cheater and a liar in my book! I might be the lonely cat lady when I am old but at least my kitties will not lie or cheat!

Today I picked up the book He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It used to be so simple but now you have to watch for mixed messages and try to figure out why men make so many excuses. I guess that in reality we all need to stop worrying if he’s into us and learn to love ourselves without a man! I think that one of the most attractive qualities about a person is self-confidence and if you’re constantly stepping on your own toes wondering if you’re saying or doing the right thing how can you be self-confident? I think that it either will or will not happen no matter how hard you try to MAKE it happen. One day he will wake up next to you and wonder who you are…is that what you want? I know that I don’t! I want to be ME up front and in the beginning so that the person knows exactly what he’s signed up for. No more wondering if he didn’t call because he’s actually has another girl on the side and no more worrying if he’s going to call and ask me out. It simply IS or it IS not!? I do not think that any amount of worrying or putting up a façade for a date is going to get me the man of my dreams…is it?? Cause if it is then he’s going to have to learn to like me for who I am and not the mask I wear! I know I have some great qualities to offer and if the guy cannot see them then I guess he can just move ON!?